My name is nworgu victoria jummai , From abia state ,isi Ala ngwa north to be precise, Nigeria based model and super international model a student of Nassarawa state university from French department, Missgoodwill ambassador 2016/2017 You’re happy. You’re living your life plans, or about to. You’re confident and calm. You know you’re doing good things, and you’re relieved that you’ve finally got your shit together.
Good things can happen to good people.
And then they arrive. The bubble busters determined to bring you back down to reality and make you feel bad.
They slip in unnoticed and at a time when you’ve finally stopped beating up on yourself.
They remind you that you’re not that special.
We’ve all met them, possibly over and over again. They project their fears and limitations to squash you.
On another level comes the haters. Who can work them out? They show their face to complete strangers just to vent their anger.
They kill your enthusiasm. They kill your confidence. They kill your self-love. They make you agonize over your choices and doubt every word you speak and action you take.
Travel used to be a shield for me. It never held me down to any particular way of living and being. I was free to roam as myself and meet other people who were also free to be.
Dream stealers and naysayers were there before I set off on my adventures, trying to make me feel guilty or stupid for following a dream. But once I hit the road, I escaped from them.
And haters and trolls? Well, I didn’t know too much about that. I didn’t stick around in one place for them to stick on me.
Travel doesn’t afford me that bubble privilege anymore. Technology allows the haters to infiltrate. And well, we have a popular travel blog, which means we have somewhat of a public profile. Although that idea kinda sits funny with me.
Not only can the haters infiltrate my space a lot easier, but they come too frequently.
It takes a lot of effort to hold my head up and continue to believe that people are mostly kind and loving like travel taught me.
get upset, less by what they say and do to me, but more by the illusion of an awesome world they shatter for me.
Sometimes it comes in waves, or in droves, or if you’re lucky fits and starts. No matter the frequency or severity, it will come. It’s just the way it is. We need to prepare ourselves for it and have a plan of action to follow when it does.
You need strength of spirit, heart and soul and a belief in what you are doing.
In having the courage to stand up and share even when people are throwing tomatoes at you.
Something I’ve heard said many times about celebrities; I’ve said it myself, is that“Well they put themselves out there so they should expect to cop some flack.”
That’s such a stupid and inhumane statement.
They should be applauded and respected for their willingness to share their story and not let their music die within them. They shouldn’t shut up and put up just because they’re a celebrity. It doesn’t mean they have to give up their right to be respected.
Whether you’re someone in the public light, or someone intent on living the best life they can, or even just someone, you’ll have to deal with bullies and the haters, and on a less malicious degree, the dream stealers.
It’s not easy as forgetting about it or blocking it out as most people advise. I bet you can’t do that either.
It eats away at you because it’s struck a chord and there’s something you need to do with it. That’s why some haters and insults we forget about easily and others persist in making us feel miserable.
The truth is, there’s nothing anybody can say to you that you haven’t said to yourself already.
“You’re fat, you’re ugly. Look at your wrinkles. No one cares what you have to say. You’re unlovable.” all those hateful things we whisper to ourselves.
The haters make you feel like they are exposing the bad bits about yourself. Even though your bad bits aren’t really there, it’s just all imagined out of fear, or years of other people’s judgements!!
I’ve had a bad week with haters infiltrating my space. Most of them don’t bother me, but some of them hit that place of vulnerability.
As a queen I seriously have a lot of people looking up to me and people I’m actually mentoring and all that, I’m a very busy person I don’t even have much time for myself as I wish then to even give out my whole time to someone who is just their trying to sabotage my image, so I can’t throw insulting words on anybody then putting up some sense of reasoning in that particular person, I know we all have our imperfections but one should know how to handle that, don’t be a reminder to someone’s private life you don’t know….i believe hating or criticising someone won’t pay your bills nor add some billions to your account so why not sit and get busy with your life or be creative so the leaders of tomorrow will learn from you and possible impact positively in ones life.